I could sit here and sulk due to the fact that I lost a 1000 word draft or start another one like I am doing now .
Just to make a long story short I searched high and low hoping to find it. No luck on that front .
The moral of the story is that things pop up unexpectedly .
Today We are going to discuss self-awareness.
The most important part of life is our outlook on it .
As Children we are nurtured ,loved,fed,clothed plus we rely on our parents for food clothes shelter .We do not understand responsibility as infants.
Some of us get spoiled so bad that when we reach adult hood and that support is no longer there we become dependent on the system,friends, family society as a whole .
Hence why we need to be appreciative and aware. Being aware is not just about your looks it is also about respecting your uniqueness .
Every experience that you encounter is curtailed for you .This is why it is important to learn from your experiences.
When you know what you want to do ,when you want to do it that signals to me that you prioritize your self.
Love cannot be taught ,only through habit and action can you demonstrate love .
It all starts with self ,knowing who you are ,walking with tenacity ,grace ,confidence.
When you cherish who you are you do not have the desires to chase friendships .
All of that comes to you.Plant seeds of love in the soil so that when harvest season comes purity shall blossom.
Earlier i shared how I lost a one thousand word drafts post .Despite the setback I kept going.
This is because there is a desire inside of me that said write another one you have enough gas in the tank.
This is the determination that comes from the hardship,pain,the stress that I brought upon myself over the years.
Through it all I learned. It help build my character.
You see my spirit ,my energy connect with each other.
My main reason for sharing this experience is to motivate you to keep going in your darkest moments.
Back to you .
Let that fire inside of you turn into a full blaze.Trust yourself .
In order to trust the process you must be willing to give yourself the benefit of the doubt.
confidence is key ,it takes zeal and great will power to go beyond your limits.
Look at Michael Jordan ,Lebron James,Master P these guys believe in themselves to the utmost.
Cast aside your fears ,override the opinions of the naysayers.
Confidence is not a form of arrogance rather it is a sign of happiness and inner peace
I know of a few individuals that are at peace with themselves.
They do not have a need for gifts or hanging out in bars,clubs with “friends”.
I am not discrediting bars in any way shape or form I am just highlighting a few things .
A person that is not at ease within themself is easily influenced.
This is where you get foot ball friends,club friends,church friends,work friends.
There is no need to seek approval or love . The only approval you need is yours.
Sometimes that might mean forgiving yourself,exercising, changing eating habits.
Personal development is what it is called to help to get you to know yourself better.
So Cherish yourself .Prioritize your needs
Persons with high self-esteem, dignity put the needs of themselves and their kids first .All other things besides health is secondary.
That is a sign of high value.
People will call you arrogant and self-centered .
You do not need to be swayed by opinions because you know yourself.
Furthermore they do not validate your life.
Any person that holds their self accountable is honest ,they are not afraid of the truth.
Seeking Validation ? That is a very dangerous road to be travelling .
Look around you in the community or society as a whole you will see humans functioning like robots same shit day in day out.
Now people like us that dare to be different get frowned upon.
Yet there is a hope for those that are yet to embrace themselves.
I am not suggesting that you start a crusade because this about self-building .
Now Hold on tight, let me explain a little bit more.
People will see and feel your energy so much so that they will be drawn in. I like to refer to it as energy .This has nothing to do with prayer or culture just pure natural love.
In order to reach a level of high esteem you need to sit down look in the mirror and assess yourself.
The mirror can only show a reflection of you ,it is Your reflection ,your reality ,it is your perception so you have the power to change course .
We all need to work on things so these mirror sessions are vital.
I used to blame everyone else until I realized that I am responsible for my change.
I have no control of other people’s feelings or thoughts so therefore I am not responsible for their actions.
On the flip side we as independent thinkers need to be able to grasp our emotions when things go south.
We cannot allow the enemy to seep in.
How are you supposed to build a better you focusing on other people ?
Mind you,there are people who will go out of their way to orchestrate an attack.
The reason being is that people will look for a weakness in your armor.
There is not one single lesson or plan on this earth as important as your loved ones ,good health and your sanity.
Your mind is unique .
Lets look at few things that will help you along the way
Faith
Whith faith comes renewed optimism , victory and clarity.
Faith is a substance that comes from with-in.It is not a learned behavior . It is the spirit that dwells in you that gives you the ambition ,energy to uplift the faith in you.
Listen to your inner voice
- Noise
- pollution
- opinions
- Life
- sickness
You do not have control of the external factors .What you do have control of is your thoughts .
Therefore you have to be bold ,strong , patient enough to give yourself a chance.
when you are ill the body communicates with you through pain which sends signals like an alarm.
Your feelings are inseparable.The spirit talks to you too. As long as you are in tune you will hear it.
Observe
You do not have to be on the front line to be heard ,to be known . It is the work that you put in on a daily basis to build yourself that matters.
Anyone that is of royalty in thine own eyes carry themselves in a pristine manner. Their spirituality attracts ,it adds value to the lives of others.
Insecurities
Each and every person has an insecurity whether it be
- Mental
- Physical
- Economical
- socially
- spiritually
All of us have them without a doubt . What really matters here is realizing where your blessings are and appreciating them.
No matter how much tune ups we do there will always be flaws in our armor. The greatest thing we can do is to not fear our doubts.
What you might see as a flaw can be seen as a strength in someone’s eyes because beauty is in the eye of the be-holder right ?
Success breeds content
When people see that glow, that sense of self-respect,they will try schemes and angles to try dismantle it.
Especially when some one knows where you come from to see how far you are now pretty much hurts them .
The have become so accustomed to the old that seeing you do better is like a disservice to them.
Change is ever-present,success is in the air,the enemy can sense it .
But you are deeply in tune, well grounded, your head is not in the clouds so you can smell the trap of the enemy a mile away.
So in this instance you are alert.
Look forward
You cannot change the past,every human being has a past. Furthermore man has not come up with away of reliving the past. Man has not found a way of controlling the future. You cannot put specs, prices on the future.
So your background is your background .The neighbour hood you live in ,school you went is just that.
So you have to know that in order to go forward you have to come to grips with here and now.
Your reality, circumstances belong to you,Not me or anyone else.
Keep working
There is no deadline on achieving personal goals . At the end of the day you are not competing against yourself you are supposed to be competing with yourself.
The only person you need to be better than is you. Never stop learning.keep being you !
Reprogram
Some times you have to stop so that you can analyze and see if you are headed in the right direction.
For this to happen you must be obedient .Listen to that still voice.
You are doing an examination of you. So even if it means losing out on short-term gains it is ok because the ultimate goal is to make longterm gains .
Take note that this cannot be done if you are stubborn, stubbornness impairs vision.
It could get to a point where you would rather deny the challenges that exist instead of fixing them.
Denial is easy however accepting responsibility for your own actions is tough .
write a book
Your life is a documentary .
Supporting cast is not needed for the script. Nothing has to be memorized.
You would be amazed by the reception you get.
Be innovative
life is about learning,life is about evolving. Do not settle or get complacent .
Challenge your way of thinking to see if adjustments need to be made.
Build up others
Those of us that are genuine leaders do not have to curtail our words .
We are not going to use words that harm but we will not mince any. What you see is what you get ,this is who we are, rain ,blow or shine.
So we do not have to manipulate.People know the deal. We do not have anything that we want to remain hidden in the closet.
In fact we are so real that we air our own laundry out before any one thinks about doing it.
Do not let success get to your head
Part of knowing yourself is having the wisdom to reign yourself in.
You have to know when you are getting carried away otherwise you are doomed.
People will whisper sweet nothing’s in your ear drum when you are winning .
Do not fall for their cheery smiles because the enemy tries to attack from different angles.
Keep your sanity
No matter what obstacles you face you must remain calm, be slow to anger.
Sometimes we can do things out of emotion that we can regret .
Your mind is the temple and a sanctuary.protect your sanity.
The journey
The path that you are on is unique .In fact both of us can travel in the same direction and experience different things . We must respect those differences too.
Remember success is a journey
Every day you need to spend time edifying ,brushing up your skill sets.
we have not arrived
anticipation
Excitement
The agony of defeat,
The sweet taste of victory
Is an ongoing process that we as independent free thinkers embrace as a part of our awesome journey.
Conclusion
When you are comfortable in that body of yours no matter if your clothes are new ,jewelry on we know that none of that defines us.
Strength, courage from With in is what brings forth evidence of our self-appreciation.
You are worthy .Do not allow anyone to take you off track .This is your life so anything that you do should be done to take you to the next level.
It is my pleasure to share this message with you today.
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