The only thing we can do about the past is learn from it or dwell on it .
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Life can be difficult at times however we still have choices even under the most extreme circumstances .
I made a personal choice not to dwell on the past as I chose to learn from it People that dwell on the past are delusional and broken . Every thing that I done in the past both good and bad can only be a memory at best .
I don’t even reminisce my days of victory and triumph so I definitely am not going to dwell on the negativety. The future is ahead of us so that’s where we should be looking .
I am not down playing the trauma and disappointments that you are living with but at some point you need to deal with your problems so that you can heal .
In order to heal you must also acknowledge that a problem exist .
Losing loved ones ,getting divorced isn’t easy however you have to get over your disappointments in order to appreciate life .
There are some of you that are ungrateful and entitled .
We are entitled to death and what ever we work for .
Some you like dwelling on the past to try avoid the process and therapy that change requires .
There are several people that I know that haven’t shifted their mindsets .
Learning is the most important thing you can do because life grants us lessons every day .
I had to look in the mirror too so you are not alone .
I have done things in the past that I am not happy with however my past doesn’t define me .
When I say let go and move on I mean heal yourself and learn from the ordeal so that you can move forward .
Healing can’t take place until you are willing to accept and put in the work .
The remedy for healing is in seeking solutions whilst rehabilitating your mind to function differently.
Listening to a podcast,changing environments , behavior and your company can heal you .
Dealing with people that done you wrong
The person that done you wrong has to live with that fact for the remainder of their lives .
When people do you wrong make sure to learn the lesson , treat them accordingly and never allow them back into your life.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean turning the other cheek
Forgiveness means you holding people accountable without giving them power and control over you .
Forgiveness means you’ve learning and gfrom the ordeal .
Remember we reap what we sow .
The culprit has to deal with you holding them accountable plus the ora associated with their bad deeds .
The future is ahead of you
I know it’s obvious but dwelling on the past is like driving forward while looking in the rear view mirror .
Whatever doesn’t serve a good purpose shouldn’t be in your life so get rid of the access baggage .
Not healing from your trauma is equivalent to walking around with open wounds .
If you don’t heal eventually you will feel as if you have the weight of the world around shoulders .
Some people don’t want to let go
There are people that intentionally dwell on the past to try justifying their bad behavior .
If you are committed to change you’ll change .
Denial
Living in denial gives you the illusion of comfort .
Furthermore your problems will always be with you until you decide to deal with them head on .
There’s no escaping reality .
Instead of you facing your problems head on you would rather not face them
Excuses is the key word that comes to mind here .
You have to make up your mind to do better for yourself .
I made up my mind that I wouldn’t be a victim of my circumstances .
No one changed my mind but me .
I chose to do things differently for my own good .
I wanted healing and I knew that I had to put in the work if I wanted to benefit .
As long as we live we will face challenges .
If you aren’t willing to face your challenges and conquer your fears life will beat you down .
If you are not willing to give yourself a chance don’t expect others to do it .
Everyone has a story to tell
We can’t turn back the hands of time however we do have the power to dictate our future .
The future is ahead of us, the past is behind us so shouldn’t we be looking forward ?
Holding on to the bad memories and trauma of yesterday is toxic .
Your lack of willingness to acknowledge that you need to change is hampering you .
Take Responsibility
Now is the time for you take responsibility for where you are and where you need to go .If you apply yourself you can and you will be successful.