How are you supposed to be a blessing to yothers if you don’t love yourself .
Don’t neglect yourself to help others .
Self love is the best love .
I know some of you do things for others before taking care of you .
Loving yourself is good for your mental health as well .
No one is going to check on the state of your mental health .
The people that don’t respect you will call you selfish and narcissistic for putting you first .
I put my child first but at the same time my mental and physical health is my priority .
If you aren’t feeling 100 % mentally and emotionally how are you supposed function with reason and logic ?
It’s like being sick trying to heal people , If anything you are beung a hinderance .
Once you are taking care of yourself you will be in a much better space mentally and spiritually to help others .
When a person is tries to help others while they can barely help themselves they are a burden .
The purpose of helping people is to be a blessing .
Take some time out to love self .
If you don’t take care of you no one else will.
Don’t tell them show them.
You have to show people how to treat you .
When you love and respect yourself people will approach you differently.
The way you conduct yourself sets the tone for what it is going to be .
If you don’t take care of your hygene people are going to treat you a certain way
. When people sense a vulnerability they will pounce on it quickly . .
This doesn’t mean that people won’t test you because you have self respect however they’ll approach you differently .
Settle down first
Get yourself in order so that you can be a blessing to others and not a curse
. I’ve seen people donate their time for all of the wrong reasons .
Instead of them being a blessing they are being a curse .
Are you a benefit ?
Is you helping a benefit or a curse ?
I’d rather see you not help than to be getting in the way.
The purpose of helping others is to be of value .
If you cannot help yourself what makes you think that you can help others
. I’ve seen people that are not of value act as if they are helping only to disrupt growth and progress .
Not every 1 is genuine
Don’t believe for 1 minute that many hands make light work .
.Under special circumstances they do but most of the times they don’t .
Not everyone on your team has the same goal.
The purpose of working as a team is to work to achieve a common goal .
When you have persons on a team that aren’t into team building they disrupt progress .
Don’t over extend yourself
The worst thing you can do is stretch yourself thin.
I believe in giving but I don’t believe in giving to the point where I am exhausted .
When giving you want it to be fun and enjoyable not stressful .
Volunteering should be done out of love
I don’t like when I see people volunteering knowing full well they need the help just as much as everyone else .
What ends up happening is that people start doing under handed things and make the experience unpleasant for the people they are supposed to be serving .
Volunteerism is about serving and loving .
Most of you get into positions for the attention and not the love of the people
. If your Cup is empty
You cannot serve from an empty cup and you cannot be of value to others if you aren’t spiritually and mentally in position to do so .
You need to take time out for yourself to fill up your cup .
Get yourself in position to serve and cultivate growth in your household and in society.
I know that you don’t want to say no but sometimes you do .
Saying no is not a big sin
You need to reserve and protect your energy at all times .
Some people will drain you mentally and emotionally and won’t give a shit .
I monitor people’s actions closely and I read into people’s energy .
I can smell a rat from several miles away .
I am mindful of who I allow in my circle however when I meet a person with a good vibe I engage .
If I meet a person with bad aura showing me good vibes I’ll decline and not allow them in my orbit .
I know people can be deceptive.
When the energy is right and I see that the person is authentic I invite them Into my space
Every one deserves a chance to redeem themselves but not every one is genuine about changing their life . . .