You are in the current situation you are in because of the decisions you have made . Yes I know there are ass holes in society but that has nothing to do with you .
We all have the freedom to make choices although some of those freedoms can be suppressed but even then you a choice .
You can’t go around playing victim all of your life and expect to move forward .
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At some point you have to take responsibility.
All feelings and experiences are temporary hence why you should make the most out of your opportunities .
I am not trying to down play your experiences but at some point you should find a solution .
The more you try to avoid the things that need to be fixed the longer you put off the inevitable .
Your problems aren’t running away so it best that you fix what needs to be fixed so that you can have closure and make progress .
Any personal problems that aren’t resolved are like open wounds and healing can’t take place until you admit that problems or a problem exist .
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If you choose to live in denial that will only make your problems worst .
Everything that I am sharing with you comes from experience and from interacting with other people.
Every one has vices that they are battling .
Change is painful whether you are changing for better or worst .
The thing I don’t like is when I see people giving up and playing victim . I have decisions to make but I make decisions that are going to benefit me my son and my future .
There are things that I dis like but I do not allow those things to consume all of my time.
I get with people and have discussions but you wouldn’t see me getting emotional about it .
There are people that thrive when you are living in fear so don’t allow the distraction to become your focus .
Lets go over a few Self Control tips
The one thing you will always control is your actions .
When people know they can irritate you they will however If you remain calm and unfazed there is nothing else that person or persons can do .
People will test you regardless
1 clear sign of maturity is you not acting out negatively the way you used to . I used to get highly emotional about simple things until I learned to analyze situations and make logical decisions .
Use Wisdom
In the Bible there is a scripture that reads “anger but sin not .” No I am not religious person but I am using the scripture as a reference .
We all get angry but how you channel your anger matters the most .
1 bad choice can cause you to lose your freedom and your life .
When a person reacts from a position of anger and emotion their vision is blurry because they aren’t thinking clearly .
Say on the other hand you get angry but make a logical decision the results are going to be different.
You are in control of you and don’t try to dictate to other people
Live life as you wish but always remember there are rewards and consequences for your actions .
You can’t control what people say or do ,as long as no one is violating you or your kids there shouldn’t be an issue .
Usually people get emotional and bent out of shape when they feel intimidated mentally or physically.
No one can make you feel a way unless you allow them to . Some of you are used to bullying people and getting over but now is the time to change your mindset .
It is ok not to prove a point to people.
It takes time to break bad habits
Habits don’t just pop up ,habits are developed over time . Since it takes time to develope bad habits it is going to take time to break them .
If you are willing to put in the work it can be done but you have to take ownership .
I know it is hard accepting the truth when it isn’t in our favor .It is easy to accept the truth when it suits our narrative however the healing process cannot start until we accept the truth .
Imagine being sick knowing you are sick but still refusing to take remedies that will cure the dis- ease .
Conclusion
Life is tough and challenging at times but over all it is beautiful. Your perspective is your out look and it is that that will determine the direction that you go .